A Special Youth & Parent Night

Written by Vicar Jennifer

On Sunday, August 17th, 35 youth and parents gathered at OKLC for dinner, a rousing game of Extreme Pictionary, and an interactive workshop. Led by Joy McElroy of Cherish All Children, a ministry of Lutheran Social Services of MN, we explored what makes good friendships or dating relationships, and the "red flags" that might indicate an unhealthy or even dangerous relationship. We talked about sextortion, grooming, catfishing, and consent. We also learned about the resources available to keep youth safe from predators (online and in person), where to turn for help, and making a safety plan.

Psalm 139:13-14 says: "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb...I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." This Bible passage framed our discussion and reminded us of our worth as children of God.  In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, we read, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." God gives us these guidelines for how we are to treat one another.

Why are we talking about this at church? Don't youth learn this stuff at school? By engaging young people in discussions around safe and healthy relationships, they can gain lifelong skills that prepare them to make safe and healthy choices. Offering this learning in our faith community offers a unique opportunity to connect with youth in a safe space while reinforcing their value as a child of God.

If you are interested in learning more about this, contact Christina Black, CYF Director, at christina.black@oklutheran.org.